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1. Listen. There are 3 Levels of Listening.  Listen to what you are saying and what you are thinking.  Listen to what other people are saying and what they aren’t saying.  Listen to what’s going on in the environment.  This is the place to access your intuition.  Remember that communication is only 7% words.  Communication is also 38% tonality and 55% body language.  Really hear what people are saying.
2. Be intentional. For every activity and interaction, leaders have an intended impact and outcome.  Impact is how you want to feel or make others feel.  Outcome is what you want to do or inspire others to do.
3. Follow your urges. Everything serves.  Say what you’re thinking.  Follow your intuition and your impulses.  Stop worrying about what other people think.
4. Take responsibility for your impact. Stay.  Realize that following your urges might make a mess.  Stick around and clean it up.  Don’t blame others for misinterpreting you.  The arguements, “But, that’s not what I said!” or “That’s not what I meant” are ways of blaming others.  Take responsibility for your part.
5. Build rapport. You can lead people anywhere you want if you first meet them where they are.  The #1 Most Important Communication Tool is “What I love about that idea…”  Try it.  Sometimes you don’t know “what you love about that idea.”  Just say the words and see what comes out of your mouth.
6. Assume full permission. Leaders don’t wait for someone else to go first or for permission to do things.  Leaders assume that they have permission and act accordingly.
7. Decide and take action. Make mistakes.  Not making a choice is a choice.  Don’t let fear of making a mistake or not doing it exactly right stop you from taking action.  Do something!
8. Fail & Recover. When you make decisions and take action, you will make mistakes.  Learn from what happens, adjust and move forward.
9. Be Flexible. Success is tied closely to flexibility.  Let go of the rules that you have and how you think it’s supposed to look.  Make an intention and keep trying things until you get there.  Make a commitment to the outcome, but let go of attachment to the path you need to take to get there.
10. Have a coach. All successful people have some sort of coach.  There are coaches available for every situation and every budget.  You can’t see what you don’t know that you can’t see.  Get a coach to help you take your life to the next level.  PS  There is always a next level.
11. Have a powerful peer group. You are the sum total of the 5-7 people who you spend the most time with.  What areas of your life do you want to improve?  Improve your peer group in that area.
12. Model success. Don’t re-create the wheel.  Find someone who is getting the results you want to be getting and do what they are doing.

Bonus:

1. Find the opportunity in every difficulty and every challenge. Successful people still have problems.  They just have really good quality problems.  Welcome problems and challenges.  Get curious.  Find the learning (a coach can help) and find the opportunity.
2. Be unreasonable. Who cares if it makes sense?  Be totally unreasonable.  Be ridiculous.  Here is a place of full permisison.  What other people think about you should be no concern of yours.  If you want something to put your attention on, start caring about what YOU think about you.

How is life coaching different from therapy, consulting, sports coaching or having a best friend?

Life coaching is not and should not be confused with therapy or counseling. A life coach assumes that you are creative, resourceful and whole and that you have all the answers within your reach. Life coaches do not deal with “issues”, the past or understanding human behavior. One of the foundational beliefs of coaching is to coach the client, not the problem. The real purpose of coaching is to “close the gap” between where a client currently is in their life and where they want to be. One of the gifts a coach brings to the coaching relationship is the belief that the client can get where they want to be AND beyond. Coaches generally hold a bigger vision of a client’s life than the client will and a coach will call the client forth to step into their potential.
Coaching and consulting are often used interchangeably, especially in business coaching. Again, the coach assumes that you have all the answers within you or within your reach. A coach will help you discover what it is you want to learn, but will not normally teach it to you. A consultant will teach you tools to use in your business or in your life, and may or may not coach you in their use. A coach will help you use the tools and resources you have and that you learn to their best effect in your life. While a coach does a lot of teaching, they are really mentors rather than teachers. If you want to learn marketing tools, hire a consultant. If you want to start using the marketing tools that you have learned from the last five workshops you went to, hire a coach.

Life coaching and sports coaching both focus on principles like going for goals, being your best, practice, team work and accountability. The main difference is that life coaching is helping look for the win-win situations and solutions in your life as opposed to the win-lose situations and solutions. Sports coaching is generally competitive, while life coaching is cooperative. The best sports coaches actually coach to these differences and achieve amazing results with their athletes and teams. Youth coaches that stand out especially tend to be focused on developing people, not just athletes.
A best friend should not be your life coach. Even life coaches have best friends and their best friends do NOT want to be coached by them. A best friend listens to your stories, colludes with you, and puts up with you no matter what. A good life coach won’t do any of these things. A good life coach is going to help you shift into personal responsibility, growth and learning and action. A life coach will ask you tough questions, provide meaningful distinctions and push you to your limits and beyond. A life coach and a best friend both want what’s best for you. Have both a life coach and a best friend.

Carrie Kish is a life coach and leadership trainer who specializes in coaching women entrepreneurs, especially coaches, and leadership training for corporations and teens. For more information, visit www.CarrieKish.com or call 661.255.2100.