Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

Listen up!  Life happens!  The only people who don’t have problems are dead people.  I guess they had some problems that got them dead, but they aren’t really suffering them any more.  I don’t mean to be callous, just direct.

We have this distorted idea that happy is a destination and that life shouldn’t be so hard.  I know I get caught up in that.  Every time I think my life couldn’t possibly get any harder, it does.  Mother Teresa said, “I know God will never give me more than I can handle.  Sometimes, I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.”  Well, I hear ya sister!

Some people think that happy people are happy because they are lucky, rich, thin, in a good marriage, have perfect kids, are successful, etc.  But, those are just circumstances.  Happy people are happy because they choose to be happy.  They realize that no matter what is going on in their life, that they can overcome it, learn from it, bear it or just plain be with it AND find some things to be happy about at the same time.

You are not your circumstances!  You are you and your circumstances are your circumstances.  Put them back into perspective and remember that you ARE greater than your circumstances and act accordingly!

If you want something done, ask a happy, busy person to do it for you!

You all know this girl (in fact, you probably ARE this girl) who seems to get more done than everyone else and always seems happy about it.  Sure, she’s busy and optimistic.  But, really, doesn’t anything bad ever happen to her?  Doesn’t she ever have a bad day?  The answer is YES!

The difference is that positive people don’t wallow around in their problems or spend a lot of time worrying about (and complaining about) things that they can’t do anything about.  They find what they can do and they do it.  When presented with a problem, they look for the solution.  What’s that quote?

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

I had to look it up.  I didn’t just know it.  Even though, if I didn’t tell you, you’d probably think I did.  A productive person goes and finds the answer – now.  She knows that “one day” is not a day of the week and she knows that the only time she has is NOW.  She doesn’t have any more hours in the day than any one else.

She doesn’t have to sacrifice her family, her relationships or her self care routines in order to be productive. In fact, she is probably better at keeping up with those things, finds time to play games with her kids, connect with her husband, travel and go out with her girlfriends.

She likely manages her time with a structure, whether it be a calendar or a planner or a “tickler file” (that one is for you, Tera McHugh).  Talk about it and it is a fantasy, schedule it and it becomes a reality.  I tell people all the time, “I just do what my calendar says.”  If my calendar says that it’s time to workout, well… I’m going to go work out.  If my calendar says it’s time to make follow up calls, then that’s what I do.  If I run into a conflict or I don’t feel like it, I move it to a more convenient time.  I don’t cancel!

Being positive and productive is a choice.  It is simply a set of habits that get repeated over and over again.  It doesn’t mean you won’t have problems and that you won’t have bad days.  It does mean that you (and everyone around you, for that matter) will feel a whole lot better about it.

Do you want to take your business, your relationships, your health or any other part of your life to the next level?  Get a coach!  People are always asking me how I get so much done in a day, a week, a month or a year.  People are always asking me why I am so happy and what’s my secret to my success.  Well, here it is, folks… I have a coach!  Here are 10 reasons why you should have one, too:

1. You want more – more time, more money, more fun, more happiness, more success, etc.  Most people come to coaching to get more out of their already amazing lives.
2. You want less – less drama, less c0nflict, less weight, fewer problems, etc.  Coaching is a great forum to explore problems and challenges and to learn more about yourself.  Coaches teach communication tools and personal responsibility.
3. You are stuck. Let’s face it.  We all get stuck sometimes.  Your coach will see where you are stuck, help you to see it and help you get into action while helping you learn more about yourself along the way.
4. You want more choices. Coaching is all about choice and choices.  Your coach will help you see that you always have choices and help you explore your choices so that you can get the results you are after in your life.
5. Accountability. Your coach will hold you accountable to do what you say you are going to do and to keep your commitments.  Your coach will use creative structures to help you succeed, even in areas where you have had challenges in the past.
6. You want more balance in your life. Most people who are successful struggle with life balance.  If one or more areas of your life is suffering from lack of attention, coaching can help you get results.
7. You’re bored. Do you have some habits (like over-eating, drinking, watching TV, etc) that are related to boredom?  Your coach will help you find new ways to get inspired and challenged without getting exhausted and overwhelmed.
8. You want to be more present in your life. Do what you love and love what you do.  Your coach will help you to be more in the experience of your life.  Most of us have built in ways of avoiding certain parts of our life.  Your coach will help you look at those areas and take action rather than living in reaction.
9. You want to find the easy way to do things. Life doesn’t have to be hard.  When things are hard, that is a sign that something’s not quite right.  Your coach will help you find the easy, fun way to reach your goals.
10. You are committed to a life of purpose. A coach can help you discover or clarify what your contribution to humanity is and help you develop an action plan to start making a bigger difference in the world.

I have been working with a life coach for over 5 years.  When I began coaching, I was looking for help balancing business and family and to fill the “what’s missing” in my life.  I have since built and sold a business, traveled to new and exciting places in the world with my husband and kids, built my coaching business, redesigned my life so that I can work from home between playing with my kids, and built an 8000 square foot custom home among other things.  Seriously, get a coach!  There is a coach available for every budget.  I am happy to give you a complimentary sample session or to refer you to an outstanding coach in any price range.

Request a sample session NOW!
661-255-2100 or Carrie@CarrieKish.com

What is life coaching?

The purpose of life coaching is to explore your dreams and goals, to stay actively involved in creating your life and to live in choice. Coaching will help you to remember who you really are and who you really want to be on a daily basis. Coaches believe that we are defined by how we show up in our life and deal with the surprises that are sent our way rather than being defined by what kind of surprises show up. Surprises, problems and challenges are a consistent part of the human experience. Coaching is built on a foundational belief that you are naturally creative, resourceful and whole. You are not broken and you do not need to be fixed. Coaching helps you develop a resourceful state of mind, stay or get present in your life, clarify your goals and create eloquent action plans for success. Most coaches offer complimentary sample sessions; the absolute best way to understand coaching is to try it.

Why do people hire a life coach?

Most people hire a life coach because they want more – time, money, health, success, happiness, fun, fulfillment, etc. People also come to coaching because they want less – problems, conflict, drama, etc. Often people come to coaching because they feel stuck. Coaching helps clients to look at their choices and to choose with intention. Not making a choice – being stuck – is a choice. Coaches are good at helping people move into action.

Carrie Kish is a life coach and leadership trainer who specializes in coaching women entrepreneurs, especially coaches, and leadership training for corporations and teens.  For more information, visit www.CarrieKish.com or call 661.255.2100.