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Who’s on your belay team? Most of us try to climb without one. One of the distinguishing characteristics of successful people is that they get support and set themselves up with accountability partners. They have someone that will anchor them when they fall and encourage them back up to their goals.
One thing that you definitely need on your way to success is accountability. Basically, being accountable means that you answer to someone. The best kind of accountability is someone or some structure that reminds you of your commitments and holds you to them. Why do we need to be held accountable? Because we’re human. Generally, our best selves set the goals and resolutions and our weakest selves sabotage the efforts all along the way. The thing to be careful about is that you make the distinction that your accountability partner isn’t actually responsible for you getting your result, you are.
There are a lot of different types of accountability. The first step is to figure out what you want to be accountable to, what you want to accomplish or what results you want to achieve. Goals and resolutions are a good place to start. Then find a way to be accountable to achieve that result. Find what works for you! Don’t confuse that with “find what you like best.” Find what actually works.
- Personal Accountability - You are accountable to you. This takes structures in order for you to succeed because we have a lot of different layers of values and desires and our needs in the moment can sabotage our short or long term goals. Ideas for structures that work: measurement (weigh yourself, count your money, count your clients), success journal (write down 5 things you will do to move you toward your goals in the next 24 hours, check in daily), write it down (food journal, QuickBooks, to do lists), time structures (put it in your calendar, make a deadline, use a timer), visual/sensory reminders (vision board, wearing special jewelry or perfume, post it notes), etc. A bold kind of structure that really works for personal accountability is to schedule something or buy something that will force you to keep to your goal. For example, signing up to run a marathon or scheduling a beach vacation with your high school girlfriends who all wear bikinis might help you stick to your fitness and weight loss goals. Leasing a car through your business might help you find the motivation you need to make the money you need to make to cover it. I’ve known people to buy houses, cars, lease offices, hire consultants and employees and then have to do whatever it takes to make the money to pay for those things.
- Being Accountable to Friends – Tell your friends or family what you’re up to so that they can hold you to it. It’s great to lean in to your friends and family for support, but be aware that they probably won’t really hold you accountable unless you are really specific about what you want from them. We tend to collude with our friends and family and diminish their failures because we love them. We let each other off the hook. If you plan to use one or more friends for accountability, design them to call you out under certain circumstances and to hold you to your word or your best when they see you falling short. Give them the specific conditions and language you want them to use and practice it.
- Group Accountability – There are a lot of different kinds of groups you might be accountable to. Generally, everyone in the group is working on similar goals as you are. This could be in the form of a mastermind group, a board of directors, a support group, a club, a team or some other group of peers. Pretty much, it’s peer pressure at work for you. You just don’t want to let the group down or look bad in front of them, so you keep your word and do your best. Most of these kinds of groups also have a coach or a leader that will add another layer of support and accountability.
- Professional Accountability – Paying someone or getting paid by someone to get results. You might hire a coach or a consultant to help you get specific results and to hold you accountable. Conversely, this type of accountability can come from an employer or a customer who is paying you to achieve some result for them and you are accountable in that way. For some reason, “money talks” and most of us respond pretty well to this kind of direct accountability, where our professional reputations are at stake.
- Public Accountabilty – Blogging, Social Networking and all other forms of telling the world what you are up to so that they will know what to expect from you. This is bold and powerful. Unfortunately, “the world” only knows what you tell them, so they can’t call you out about eating ice cream on the sofa at 11pm unless you tweet it or something like that.
The bottom line is that accountability works. Go get some!
I am starting three Coaching Mastermind Groups in May that will meet twice a month for an hour over the phone – Goal setting, accountability, coaching, consulting and mentoring all in one. Mondays at 9:30am, Tuesdays at 8:30am or Fridays at 10:30am pacific. Call, text or email me now!
You’ve probably heard it said that you are the sum total of the 7 people you hang out with most. So who do you hang out with most? And, do you like who you are and who you are becoming in that company?
If you want to lose weight, hang out with healthy, fit people. It makes it easier. If you want to be more successful, surround yourself with people who are MORE successful than you are. If you want to be in a fulfilling marriage, hang out with other couples who represent that for you.
Conceptually, this sounds great. But, I think it’s harder than it sounds. I know that the people I spend the most time with actually are my children. When they were little, it was hard for my brain to keep from turning to jello sometimes. As an entrepreneur, I spend most of my time working with clients or in pursuit of new clients. I have to make a conscious effort to put myself in environments that stretch me and to surround myself with people who propel me forward.
Here are 7 Ways to Create a Powerful Peer Group:
1. Be at choice about who you spend your time with. Of course there are important people who you are in relationships with that may not serve your vision of who you are becoming. Choose when to spend your time with them and how much time and energy you want to invest in that relationship. I’m not going to stop hanging out with my kids. But, I am intentional about that time. I love to play games with them, help them with their homework, make meals, go to the movies and just hang out with my kids. But, I don’t play Xbox or WOW with them. You get the idea. I also love my extended family dearly. I come from a long line of women who love with food – lots of delicious food. If I am watching my diet, I need to plan ahead when I attend a family event. It’s also true that I love with food and make regular attempts to kill my loved ones with enchiladas and cheesecake. They need to plan accordingly and enlist my support when they come over.
2. Bring the people in your current peer group up with you. So, in the case of my family, especially my immediate family, I am not going to stop eating with them as a long term solution. But, I can enroll them in eating better with me. Now, I have a peer group that supports me. You can do this with your office staff, your management team, the Little League moms or any of your other friends.
3. Join networking and business development groups or start your own. My favorite business development group for Women Entrepreneurs is The Association of Women Entreprenuers. I am inspired by the motivational and inspirational speakers. I love the mastermind groups. And I cherish the friendships that I have made with like-minded women in pursuit of MORE.
4. Join or start a mastermind group. Be intentional about who you choose to mastermind with. Look for people who compliment you and stretch you. Many coaches and consultants offer the opportunity to mastermind with them for a price. If this is your next teacher, then the price is generally worth it. You can mastermind with me, if you are so inspired.
5. Attend conventions in your field. Conventions are a fabulous opportunity to network with other like-minded professionals who are moving in the same direction that you are and conventions generally offer progressive educational opportunites in your field.
6. Pursue a credential. Most credentialing programs give you education with a peer group, or tribe, built in. One of the tribes that I am proudest to belong to and most stretched and fulfilled by is my CTI Leadership Tribe. My coaching certification, CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach), also admits me to an amazing, international tribe of coaches and leaders. I continue to be inspired and grown by these associations.
7. Join an association of professionals in your field. As a coach, I belong to The International Coach Federation and The International Coach Federation in Los Angeles. I know I am among “my people” when I attend any ICF event. Know your tribe! If you are a designer, hang out with other designers. If you are a realtor, work with other realtors. These collaborations make us all better at what we do and help us to serve our clients better by bringing up our whole industry.
Whatever you do, do something. You’re success depends on it!